Things to Say (and not say) to a grieving Black male

Things to Say

  • How can I support you?
  • What do you need from me?
  • It’s ok to not be ok
  • Asking for help doesn’t make you weak
  • What are you doing for self-care?
  • I appreciate you
  • Thank you for being you
  • How can I help hold you accountable for taking care of yourself?
  • Feel what you need to feel

Things not Say

  • Man up
  • You’ll get over it
  • It could be worse
  • You need to think about other people
  • Men don’t cry
  • I understand what your going through
  • Put your head down and keep working
  • If I were you I would…..
  • What will other people think
  • Don’t go to therapy…”that’s for White people,” “it’s too expensive,” “it’s not something men do”

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